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Question: I’ve come across some of my ex’s belongings. We ended things several months ago. Is it okay to get rid of them?
James, Clinton, NJ
Depending on Who Ended the Relationship
- If she ended things: Absolutely, feel free to dispose of them. Throw them out, burn them, or sell them on eBay. Enjoy the sense of release.
- If you ended things: Carefully pack everything up and send it back to her. It’s important to avoid including a sentimental note reminiscing about your time together. And resist putting in the T-shirt she liked wearing.
- If it was a mutual decision: Only return items that you know are significant to her, like a beloved sweatshirt or a pair of hiking boots. Send them with a brief, neutral note to prevent any awkwardness or misinterpretation of your intentions. Something simple like, “Found these while cleaning and thought you’d want them backe.g.James” will suffice.
For more advice on navigating post-breakup scenarios and moving on, consider engaging in conversations with new people to explore fresh perspectives and connections.